Saturday, October 18, 2014

I need my fix....... #Perception #Reality

Our perception is our reality, right? Or does our reality skew our perception?

I go with our perception is our reality. Oftentimes, we operate in the frame of what we perceive to be going on. We have all heard the saying, “Hindsight is 20/20.” Meaning, if you had known all the pieces of the facts in the beginning, then maybe a different choice would have been made. That different choice would have been made because your perception of the issue (or whatever you were facing) would have been different.

As a society, we have become addicted to highly sensationalized moments. We crave it in our news, TV shows and movies, magazines, books, music, social media and just about everything we come into contact with. We crave it and if it’s not present, then we are upset about how boring it is. Have we considered how this is shaping our perspective? How these sensationalized moments are shaping the way we define news, life, peace, love, politics, values, morals or lifestyles?

We have made celebrities lives’ an important part of our business and feel the need to become so consumed with their personal lives, how they live, what they buy, and then we try to compete with their lifestyles. When you take a step back, that’s the laughable part. We, majority of us, have significantly less than a celebrity yet we are spending our disposable income on material things that we see the celebrities with. As adults, we have now made choices to copy this lifestyle that we do not always have the capital for, to pacify us and have twisted it to begin to believe that “this” will make us feel better, more beautiful….more complete.

And in the meantime, we’ve shifted our culture. In the wrong direction (at least in my opinion). Now, I don’t feel that everything has shifted in the wrong direction….just a few things. Hear me out. We have more “reality” shows that are so far from the truth that we live on a day to day basis. And trust, I’m not judging. I’ve always said “reality shows” are my guilty pleasure. I don’t have any drama going on so it’s interesting to me to see what others have going on. But, when I took a moment to think about it, it was shaping my perception. Even though I wasn’t living it or experiencing it, I begin to slowly shift and notice that every moment that was peaceful was all of the sudden “boring.” Uh oh…..I’d now joined the 2LiveCrew and needed that sensationalized fix.

And the sad thing about that fix is, it’s not just in our reality shows. It’s in the news, we take it to work, we pass it along to our children, we infuse it into our relationships – business, personal, family, friendships, spiritual, and intimate relationships….we have made a culture of it. Even something as simple as our social media accounts reflect it. We skip over the “boring” posts. We have become infatuated with celebrity breakups. We take them personally. This is probably the dumbest thing to me, I’m sorry….but I’m not sorry. I've seen people UPSET about a breakup between two celebrities they've never met. And I’m looking around like, “am I the alien here?” First, a break up, especially a divorce, is hard as hell to deal with. Then throw in being put in the public eye. Most of us who have had a heartbreak, break up, or divorce have wanted to BURY ourselves underneath the covers for days, weeks, even months. I do not even want to imagine what it would be like to go thru it publicly. Yet, as they do, we become judge and jury as to “what happened in that private relationship.” We have made it our business to mind everyone else’s business…but our own.

And so here we are, our perception of life, love, business, and our morals have shifted. Our perception of what love should look like has become so sensationalized…there’s 50 million Pinterest pins, Facebook posts, Instagram pictures, and tweets about “what real love should look like.” Yet, we haven’t realized that we've taken intimate and private moments and have showcased them to tell people if YOUR love isn't like this….well, then it’s not love. We have taken SINGLE moments of success and told people if YOUR success doesn't follow this plan and timeline, well….then you’re losing. We've taken our child’s accomplishments and shouted that if YOUR child can’t do what mine can do, welp…..maybe you can get a refund. (Lol, sorry, had to throw that in there. We all know we can’t get refunds on these kiddos!). We have encouraged uniformity when it does not apply. We have convinced people that weight loss, love, success, happiness, great kids, a wonderful life, a fat bank account can all be achieved with these (insert a random number) few steps. The most important steps we've eliminated are time, hard work, patience and finding our own path to the things in life we desire. We've tried to sell the idea that everything is cookie cutter and we can achieve it if we follow the exact steps someone else traveled. 

That is not life. This is not life. Life has some boring moments. It has some still moments. Yes, celebrate the hell outta of those great moments. But live life realistically. Nope, we will not all be successful in every area of life at every moment. We will not have the most well behaved kids who excel in everything they start….well, ya’ll won’t but I will (just kidding). LOL. No, our relationships will not mirror a fairytale. And sometimes bad things will happen….you can’t always be on top. But our attitude, patience, work ethic, character and ability to center and balance ourselves is what will get us thru the journey. We need to slow down and realize that everything we come in contact with – social media, books, magazines, news, tv, movies, our circles of influence, work, church, everything – influences our perception. And the question we should be asking is “Am I on my over-sensationalized fix or am I filtering what I see, hear and am exposed to so that it feeds my soul, spirit, and my emotional and mental states?”


Live, laugh, love….and enjoy every day of this life. You only get one. 

1 comment:

  1. Once again I love yet another blog of yours
    It's funny how reality shows, social media ect can have a lot of impact on our life rather we know it or not. Having the mentality to get out there and get it (making more money) or the drama that it has and how it actually effects our day to day life with the people we come in contact with. I agree what you mentioned in your last paragraph. Balancing and being aware of our circumstances and knowing the reality of "the real life" at hand will help us through our journey.
    I believe you have really good points and I also know that this only apply to some people. I love watching reality shows because some of what goes on in them I can relate. But one thing about it is that you can't let it consume you.

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